How Can I Be Happy When People Around Me Aren't?
Is your teenager seething with anger, or moping around with sadness? Has your husband or wife lost their job and is feeling powerless and depressed?
It’s not always easy to stay in high energy when those around you are feeling down—but just like the airlines say—we must take care of ourselves and put on our own oxygen mask first. Here are a few ways to do that, and I’m sure you have your own favorites as well.
1. Accept responsibility
First of all, accept that you are responsible for you, and they are responsible for themselves. They have their own path, their own higher self, their own challenges. You are part of their life, but you are not responsible for their life. You are 100% responsible for your life, so you need to take care of your response to them, not take care of them.
2. Decide what you want to feel
Peace of mind? Set your intention clearly. “I want to be happy, I want to be peaceful, even in the midst of this.”
3. Do small kindnesses…
Find small kindnesses that they like, and do them. Buy their favorite snack that you don’t like. Fill the kettle when you know they will be coming in. Offer a back-rub.
4….Without expecting appreciation
After you do this kind thing, there’s a good chance it won’t be noticed. They may totally ignore it and you may find yourself irked and wanting to be appreciated and thanked. Do this for yourself! Really. Think to yourself something like, “Thank you so much, you are so awesome for doing that for me, and all the things you do for me. I appreciate you and love you.” Have fun making up what you would love them to say for you. (You just may be surprised what you hear out of their own mouth a day or two later—you are changing the energy.)
5. Silently bless with the opposite of what they are emitting
Are they are fuming with anger? Silently bless them with peace. Moping with sadness? Bless them with lightheartedness and joy. (Notice again you have to find the positive and by blessing them you are giving it out, which raises your energy.)
6. Talk to them silently
This is especially great for teenagers, but works with anyone, because we all know we can feel thoughts, right? Say the things that may feel too corny to speak. “I love you so much, you are absolutely perfect just as you are, you are my greatest joy…”
7. Positive energy with figure 8s
If you are taking a walk, or riding in a car together, you can consciously send waves of energy with figure 8s or the infinity sign between you, along with positive thoughts. One way to do this is to just go through the alphabet, thinking of good words for each letter. “Awesome, abundant, beautiful, blossoming, blessed, compassionate, caring, creative…” Our energy is attuned, whether we know it or not, that's why it bothers us when they don't feel good. Use this consciously to lift yourself up, and that will lift them up as well.
8. Ask a higher power, for them
When we feel down, it's hard to ask for ourselves; wouldn’t it be nice if someone was asking for us? (This is a perfect opportunity for an angel committee, if you went to that class.)
9. Physical change of scenery
Get out of the house, take a walk or drive, go out into nature. Sometimes changing something on the outside changes the inside.
10. Fun
Do something fun, or watch a comedy. Laughter is a fabulous medicine.
11. Clean up
Again, changing the environment always changes the energy. Vacuuming, making the bed, doing the dishes, or taking out the trash always feel good. Very symbolic too! Again you can set intentions as you do this. “May their sleep be smooth and peaceful. May all the garbage be gone, we’re ready for good now.” Have fun with it.
12. Journaling
Get it out of your body and mind by writing it down. Write how pissed off you are that they are not happier. It’s OK to even “yell” at them in your journal. “Would you please get it together, you are driving me absolutely crazy, and I can’t stand being around you.” Get out every single negative thing you can think of, until you feel empty and clear, and then write a few positives to end with. Or you can write a letter to their higher self and tell it to help them quick. (Some people like to tear up or burn the page with the negative stuff on it, see what you feel.)
13. Use your imagination
Ask yourself, “What could I do to feel better?” You may get the inspiration just to leave the house, go out and have fun by yourself. Or to take a vacation together. Or you may get something totally surprising. Have fun with this!
Intention + Journaling + Affirmation = Results!
A journal can help make the laws of attraction work for you. It involves visualizing the future you want, making a plan, and welcoming opportunities with an open mind. It can be a vital tool in helping you achieve your purpose and your dream life.
The Law of Attraction basically states that whatever we are vibrating, we are attracting. When we vibrate these positive emotions, it paves the way for their “seeming causes” to come to us. They can be the effect of the vibration—a wealthy person feels abundant—but it also works the other way—an abundant feeling person attracts wealth. We may need time to create the physical manifestation, but we can create the feeling right now.
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The gold is in the shadows. Life’s challenges push us into our own growth, and choosing what we want in our life. And what we choose affects those around us.
I wish you much happiness and good energy!